Is Your Husband Worth Waiting For?

You've been waiting a long time for your appointed man of God to find you, but he seems to have gotten lost somewhere.  You perform the duties of each day that you find yourself in, hoping that today is the day that your wait finally ends, but it doesn't.  The sky darkens to signal the close of another day and you still haven't been found.  It's beginning to look like you're playing a silly religious game of hide-and-seek all by yourself.  You're hiding, but no one's looking for you but the wrong guys.  Your faith is tested even more when you find out that your shacking cousin, Tammy, has just announced her engagement to what appears to be a pretty good man.  How could that be?  Tammy has been in three relationships within the last three years and she doesn't even know what abstinence means!  And now, she seems to have found the one man in the whole world who's perfect for her.  Even the pastor seems to be happy for her and you're left feeling like you've missed God somewhere... somehow.  What if the wait isn't worth it?  What if abstinence isn't necessary?

Blind, Sex-Starved Women in the Church

Disclaimer: You're probably gonna need one of those hand-held church fans with Harriet Tubman's face on the front because this message is gonna set some lukewarm Christians on fire, nevertheless, you can't escape the truth.
 Lately, I've been seeing a lot of memes on Facebook depicting muscular, secular-looking men praying.  Of course, these memes are going viral because they project the very thing a lot of believing women want: secular men with a hint of righteousness.  Amazingly enough, the Lord dealt with me some time ago about the heart of His daughters.  He showed me how many handsome, secular men were rising up and sharing "their versions" of the gospel, but these men weren't right with God.  They were double-minded and full of worldliness.  Their hearts were turned away from God and they saw ministry as a "career opportunity".  They came to the church and began to share many of the SAME messages some of the God-appointed leaders had been sharing all along, but they became popular because of their outer appearances.  They were religious parakeets, mocking many of the men of God who have gone before them, but their predecessors words had fallen on deaf ears because they hadn't come wrapped in attractive flesh.  The Lord always reminded me of the appearance of Christ Jesus.
Isaiah 53:2 (NIV): He grew up before him like a tender shoot, and like a root out of dry ground. He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him, nothing in his appearance that we should desire him.

The Hidden Places

One prayer that I prayed to the Lord a while back was that no matter where He took me to never let me be in a place where I think I don't need Him.  I asked the Lord to make it where I will always need Him because I truly understand that a lot of people get the wealth and stability they think they need to live their lives, and from there, they stop serving God.  Some of them begin to worship God in their flesh, meaning, they become religious.  They begin to speak scriptures and a bunch of Christian idioms, but their hearts are far from God.  Some are even charismatic in their delivery of the Word, but they don't practice the same Word they preach.  I don't want to become that person... ever.

Sex, Lies and Soul Ties (New Book)

Well, she's finally here...my newest book entitled Sex, Lies and Soul Ties.  This book has pulled on me to the point where I had to tap out of me and tap into the Lord.  When I tell you that this book is going to bless you, I'm not just saying this because I'm the Author; I know it's going to bless you because it blessed me as I was writing it.

The topic of sex and soul ties is a sensitive one, because our society considers any discussions of sex to be somewhat taboo.  Additionally, most people don't truly understand soul ties.  They know what they've heard about soul ties, but they don't understand what soul ties are, how soul ties are truly formed and how soul ties affect their lives.  That's why I couldn't pass up the opportunity to let God pour information into me that would allow me to write such a powerful and informative book.  And let me tell you, when the Lord pours the truth in you, it offends every lie you've been told.

Rejecting Ishmael

I've been living in the Atlanta area for two months now, and it's been awesome.  It definitely took some getting used to because I'd been living in Florida for the last five years, and Florida and Georgia are very different in many ways.  One noticeable difference is race.  The city I live in is predominantly black, so I've gotten "hit on" a lot more than I did when I was in Florida.  I could say that's a good thing, but it's not because I understand that God has chosen one man for me.  Everyone else is just a distraction.  Nevertheless, I did exchange numbers with a guy recently and the experience itself was a teachable moment.

When a Woman Tries to Tame Her Man

There are billions of men in this world and not one of them is perfect.  As a matter of fact, every man comes with his own set of issues, and it goes without saying that every woman comes with her own set of issues as well.  Nevertheless, when God has changed us, renewed our minds and released us to be found by our God-ordained husbands, it is because He has cleaned us up and determined that whatever issues we have won't be severe to our marriages or our relationship with Him.  Sometimes, He will use our spouses to point out these issues, and if we are wise, we will take our problems to the Lord and let Him deliver us from them.  If we are foolish, we will become combative and refuse to make a change.

Before You Marry the WRONG Man!

Hey beautiful women of God!  Be sure to check out this POWERFUL new audio message entitled, Before You Marry the Wrong Man.  The reality is...there are two men heading your way who are not the God-appointed ones.  There is Ishmael and there is Obvious.  Mr. Obvious will always give you clues to his identity, and he is often regarded as Ishmael, so when the real Ishmael finds you, he will always look like the Promise.  The real Ishmael isn't so obvious; instead, he will look, sound, and behave like the real deal, and that's why it's important to have information...and lots of it!

What Unforgiveness Does to a Woman

Earlier this evening, I went to Walmart to pick up a few items.  When I'd completed my shopping, I made my way to one of the few registers I saw open.  The lines were pretty backed up, so I didn't bother trying to see which register had the shortest line.  I simply pushed my cart to an open register and stood in line.  As it turned out, the line I'd chosen was obviously a pretty decent line because there were only two families standing ahead of me.  The first woman was probably alone, but I'd initially thought the teenage girls were with her.  She looked Hispanic, but the two teenagers I'd initially seen were obviously biracial.  It wasn't long, however, before I realized the two girls were not with her.  They were with the woman directly in front of me, and there was another young lady standing with them, but she appeared to be pretty distant from them.  The two teenage girls were bubbly and very chatty with one another, but the other young lady was a rebel.  She looked to be anywhere between nineteen to twenty four years old and she was heavy set.  Unlike the young ladies with her, she didn't dress girly, nor did she seem to be enjoying herself.  I could see anger in her.  I could see hatred in her.  I could tell that she wanted to fight someone, somewhere...anything.

A Life's Sentence: Your Plans for You Versus God's Plans for You

Anytime we hear that someone has been given a life's sentence in prison, we know that their lives are pretty much over.  For the rest of their lives or the duration of their sentences (25 years or more), they will be monitored, controlled, and limited in their doings.  All the same, they will be restricted to a small cell that they'll likely share with another inmate or several inmates.  They'll be subjected to tormenting words, lewd behaviors, and a lifetime of regrets.  It goes without saying that there aren't many sane people (if any) who want to go to prison, and that's why most of us stay on our p's and q's and ensure that we follow every letter of the law.  But what about your life's sentence?  What have you limited yourself to?  Who have you limited yourself to?  Believe it or not, we have all given ourselves life sentences, and that's why God continues to extend new mercies to us everyday, all the while, renewing our minds whenever they need a refreshing.

No Premarital Kissing for Me...Here's Why

I've been added to many singles' groups on Facebook, and I often see the question asked to single women, "Would you be willing to wait until marriage to kiss your guy, or will you kiss him while courting?"  I'm often curious as to the mindsets of today's modern Christian, so I normally read the comments before responding.  Sometimes, I choose not to respond to such questions because I'm so passionate about my beliefs that I know my stance could come off as judgmental, when it is not.  Like most women, I've shared premarital kisses with the wrong men, and of course, if you know my story, I was married twice.  I was God's rebellious child: the infamous Prodigal Daughter who went away to sample the forbidden pleasures of life.  My mind was twisted and I believed I could find a blessing in sin.  I was that girl who most folks didn't think could be saved...even some of the folks in the church.  Nevertheless, God changed me and I made up my mind to wait. 

Losing One Fight to Win Another One

Today, I broke.  I didn't break down (per-SE), but my heart did break.  My heart broke for "her".  Who is she, or better yet, who was she?  She was a girl I knew so dearly, a girl who'd dedicated her life to protecting me.  She'd done everything in her power to get me what I wanted, but in the end, I had to let her die.  I had to stand there and watch her die a slow and agonizing death, but she was a fighter.  She fought hard until the end, and even when I thought she was dead, she'd open her eyes once again and start fighting off what she believed to be my adversaries.  It's amazing how much fight she still had in her after all she'd gone through, and it's amazing that she still wanted to fight for me after I'd made the decision to let her die.

Are You Preparing or Just Waiting

There are many women who are "waiting" on GOD for their GOD-appointed husbands, and while this may be admirable, it can also be error.  The general mindset for waiting women is: I'm ready for my husband.  I'm just waiting on him to find me.  Such thinking comes from a common mindset found in women, and that mindset is: Every relationship I was in that failed was the fault of the man, so therefore, I am just waiting on that one man who will appreciate what the last man didn't appreciate.  Here's the thing: That last guy (and every guy before him) got with you because you had a void, sin, or a lack of understanding that opened the door for him to enter into your life.  This means you were NOT ready to be found by your GOD-appointed husband, thus the reason you ended up being discovered outside the will of GOD by the wrong man.  In other words, you do need a change of heart after all. 

The Reality of Spiritual Warfare in 2015

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The Plight of the "Average" Woman

He's smart, handsome, cute and successful. He's everything you think you want in a man. And best of all, he's interested in you....Yes you! So, you bat your eyes and put on your widest grin. It appears your wait is over. It appears you've been found, and the man who's found you is perfect for you. This guy is so good, you're determined to lock him in. Like any good investor, you decide to put an offer on the table for him. You're offering him the best of you, and all he has to do is give you his last name. Nevertheless, before he accepts the offer, he wants to take you for a test run to see if you're worth your asking price, and because you don't want to let that one get away, you decide to passive-aggressively accept his offer. No, you won't open your mouth and say you're willing to let him have sex with you in hopes that he'll take you to somebody's altar and marry you. Instead, you decide to pretend that the random and somewhat spontaneous sex was an unplanned event that you're not too happy about. Once he comforts you, however, you begin to relax a little and you stop pretending that you got “caught up in the moment” and you just start letting “it” happen. You are officially in a sexual relationship and you make no apologies for it.

Christian Women Who Prefer Worldly Men

Hey guys!  My sister in the LORD (Davinia Tigerlily) invited me on the Sir Walter Jones Show and the show was informative and awesome.  Check it out.